Introducing Solids: What to do when it’s not going well

I can’t tell you how many FB status updates and blog posts I’ve been reading about babies Monito’s age who are JUST LOVING SOLIDS! They jut can’t get enough of every food they try. They want to try, they want to eat, they want to revel in everything they taste.

Not so with Monito. In fact, our experience has been the EXACT OPPOSITE.

My son is not at all interested in solids. In fact, he down right despises them. Everything we put in front of him he dislikes–he’s an equal opportunity solid-food-hater.

We’re attempting Baby Led Weaning. I’m reading the baby led weaning book and it’s all about how babies will explore their food and try their food and LOVE THEIR FOOD.

That is not what’s happening for us. When Monito tries his food, he clearly doesn’t like his food. If it ever gets near his mouth (very rarely) he makes an unimpressed face. Most of the time he also gags and dry heaves and many times he’s made himself vomit. A few times he’s projectile vomited spectacularly, all because he got a spec of food on his tongue.

Clearly the sensitive gag reflex that made breastfeeding, and then bottle feeding, really difficult is still around, rearing it’s ugly head. It’s clear that it’s going to take A LONG time for this baby to actually ingest any solid foods.

And it’s not just when we do baby led weaning. I’ve tried (out of desperation) some purees. He doesn’t like them any better. They don’t make him gag any less. Usually he just hangs his tongue out of his mouth until it falls off, or he starts to gag so I wipe it off (or he pukes, whichever happens first).

I know it’s not really a big deal yet, but I have a feeling that if he’s still not eating anything nine months our doctor is going to recommend… I don’t know… something? I don’t know what else we can do. The boy doesn’t want to eat real food.

I guess my question is, do we keep trying, even though we’re getting nowhere? Or do we wait a month or so and try again. We’ve been attempting baby led weaning for over a month and gotten NO WHERE. I absolutely believe we’d be in the same place now if I had stopped after that first attempt at sweet potatoes and just reattempted with a banana today. We’ve made no progress, despite dozens of tries. We’ve tried different foods, different consistencies, feeding him when he’s hungry, feeding him when we’re all eating and he can watch us and copy us. I’ve tried everything I can think of, but none of it has worked. It’s making me tired, and depressed. Again, I know it’s not a big deal, at least not yet, but the more we fail, the more I think it will eventually be a big deal, and the more I want to not try again.

Part of me thinks, OF COURSE WE SHOULD KEEP TRYING! How will it get better if we don’t try?! And part of me thinks, he’s just not ready yet, and driving us all bonkers trying to make him ready isn’t going to do anything more than frustrate all of us.

So I guess my question is, what do I do? Keep trying twice a day with new things? Or just stop for a week, try again, and if it’s still a no go, wait another week, and so on?

Ugh. This sucks. I┬ácan’t help but picture years of fighting over food ahead of us. I don’t know how this could end well.