I responded to everyone’s comments on yesterday’s post, just so you know. Thanks, as always, for your thoughts.
So we’re trying to give Isa’s binki (pacifier) the boot this coming weekend (well, week really but we’re starting Friday night).
I have to admit, I’m terrified.
We’re on a strict binkis-are-for-bedtime regimen but she fights it a lot. She LOVES her binki and really seems to NEED it when she’s upset and for falling asleep. It’s going to be a total shit show getting rid of it, I’m sure. But I think now is the time.
The reason I’m trying to do this now is that, well, she’s THREE YEARS OLD. I’m all for transitional objects. I’ve proudly declared that I still sleep with my childhood blankie (and when I say “sleep with” I mean, I will look for 45 minutes if I can’t find it before bed because the idea of going to bed without it is horrifying for me). So I’m all for Isa taking her blankie to the grave with her (when she’s 150, of course) and everywhere in between. I have no qualms with her having a lovie or touting around something that helps her self-soothe, but I really do believe she’s at the age where she shouldn’t have a binki. I don’t want it to mess up her teeth. She has some BAD GENES in the teeth department (and a mom who had a hell of a time giving up her thumb at seven years old).
So I do believe it’s time for her to give up her binki. I’ve decided to give this weekend/next week a try because she’s home with me so we won’t have to worry about complications during nap time at school. Also, it won’t be so hard for her to be tired if it takes her forever to fall asleep without it. Plus, I think we need to give her at least a couple months without her binki before she starts seeing Baby Brother enjoying his. I figure it will be impossible to wean her off it if she sees him with one all the time, so we need to nip this in the bud pronto.
Now, I’m writing this post not because I find any of this particularly interesting, but because I was hoping some of you might have some tips on how to do it. Your suggestions are always SO HELPFUL. (Seriously, I’ve been meaning to write about how I used two of the suggestions on the bedtimes-have-gone-to-shit post and within a night we’d reclaimed our evenings. It’s like we’re different people now that bedtimes takes 30 minutes again. I can’t thank you all enough for the strategies). So I thought maybe if I wrote about this here, people would have AMAZING ideas for how to manage this as painlessly as possible.
My cousin said someone told her to prick a hole in her daughter’s binki and that over a couple of days, she would just lose interest because it wouldn’t really soothe like it used to. She told me her daughter was OBSESSED with her binki and used it most of the day and after the pin prick trick (she poked a hole or two a day every day for three days) her daughter just stopped using it of her own accord. It literally took three days and no tears. The whole thing seems way too easy to believe, but I’m definitely going to try it. Luckily we’re only using one binki these days (Isa has the Wubbanub binkis with the animals attached) so I can probably get away without subbing “elefante binki” with one of her other animals–she literally hasn’t seen them in months. And if it works like my cousin says it will, then holy shit! That is awesome! If it doesn’t I guess we’re going to have to call in the binki fairy and hope for the best.
Any other ideas/suggestions/tried-and-true methods you guys have for ditching binkis? I’m seriously open to anything at this point. No idea is too extreme. 😉