Today my parent came up to the city to help me in the backyard. We got so much done and for the first time I actually think I’m going to finish that monstrosity of a summer project before the school year starts.
Oh, and my mom also cleaned my kitchen and our sunroom/dinning room which has become my mud room this summer, as it’s the entry point from downstairs and gets very dirty when I come up from working in the yard.
Having my parents here to help makes me realize how much I’ve come to expect their help in my life. The reality is I expect help from my in-laws too. It’s not that I assume they will help or get huffy when they don’t, it’s just that I get help frequently enough from both sets of parents that I think I subconsciously I make decisions with the expectation of help from parents and in-laws built into those decisions. I definitely assumed my MIL would take care of our second child for the first year or two when we were trying to get pregnant. We would be going into considerable debt if she didn’t. I wouldn’t have been upset if she didn’t want to watch our son, but I would have been very,very surprised.
I realize how lucky I am to have so much help from my extended family. They truly are amazing, all four of them, and I can’t fathom how much harder life would be without them. I don’t know how we’d manage it, frankly. We’d be a mess without their financial support, the childcare they provide and the man hours they put in cleaning our house or doing projects like working in our backyard today.
There is definitely a part of me that feels guilty for all they do and I know that if any of them were to ever need us we would absolutely have to do everything in our power to help them. I do hope we can pay them all back some day and I hope we can provide as much support for our own children as our parents have for us.
Do you get much support from family? Why or why not?